Before We Fall In Love

Learn the skills of pre-dating and change your dating life

Before We Fall In Love...

The world is FULL of people who want love, and one of them might be just right for you.

To be clear: Love is your biological foundation - a part your ancestral legacy. It is love that makes us human, and it is love that keeps us alive as a species. Some people are luckier when it comes to finding it than others, but if luck hasn't been running your way, a bit of knowledge on human behavioural patterns might just be just what you need to give it a push in the right direction.

I can't promise you Mr. or Ms. right, but what I can do is help you build your confidence, your psychological health, and your positive habits. Teaching you the insights of behavioural and emotional intelligence can help you to nurture a greater capacity to give and receive love, and send you into the dating scene as a newly informed expert.

What is love?

LOVE:  /lʌv/

(n.) an intense feeling of positive emotion toward, or enjoyment of, a person: strong romantic feelings between people: strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties.

In order for a connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen, REALLY SEEN. Contact me and get started today.

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“Emotions change how we see the world and how we interpret the actions of others."

DR. PAUL EKMAN



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Imagine this scenario. . .

 

Unlike facial expressions used in overt communication, micro expressions are difficult to fake due to the rapid and unconscious display, they appear quickly before the sender is fully aware and can’t control their emotional reaction. This can make it challenging to notice and recognise them, but with training and practise, it is possible to read others while having a conversation.

You’ve just told your date that they look nice tonight and they respond with a micro expression of…

· Happiness: This is indeed a good sign and shows that they enjoyed your compliment.

· Anger: You might unintentionally, have said or done something upsetting and should ask if your comment was the cause.

· Fear: Your date is feeling a sense of threat/danger, you might want to clarify that you meant no harm.

· Contempt or disgust: Bad sign! Consider changing the subject or asking what they would like to talk about.

· Sadness: It’s likely that the response has less to do with your comment and more to do with a sad memory or experience they’ve had.

With micro expression tools, anyone can learn to spot the moment-to-moment micro expressions of others. Knowing what they mean and how best to respond to them, though, takes a lot more practice. By definition, micro expressions reveal a person’s true emotions, but they do not tell us why the person is feeling that way. This is why context and further inquiry is vital for understanding the situation and a stepping-stone toward enhancing your communication.

DATING STATISTICS

28%

Of women fall in love at first sight.

48%

Of men fall in love at first sight. 

65%

Of communication is through body language. 

52%

Of Americans say flattery is the best way to attract.
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Jasper made me realize by understanding my own behaviour and gustures how I could change my mindset. This made a huge difference on how I look at the world and made a significant change in how I connect with others, which helped me find my boyfriend. 

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The reason on why you should Learn Body Language

When you meeting your next date, wouldn't you agree it would be a great advantage to understand what your date is saying or not saying? OR even have the tools to influence your date to feel comfort in your company?

The interest in body language is largely focused on the fact that much of the time our body is unconsciously sending messages related to our internal states.

Non-verbal communication can also reveal a person’s true thoughts, feelings, and intentions. For this reason, non-verbal behaviours are some- times referred to as tells (they tell us about the person’s true state of mind). Because people are not always aware, they are communicating nonverbally, body language is often more honest than an individual’s verbal pronouncements, which are consciously crafted to accomplish the speaker’s objectives

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The right connection

The interest in body language is largely focused on the fact that much of the time our body is unconsciously sending messages related to our internal states. You may tap your foot if nervously waiting for an important interview or clench your fists and jaw if angered.

These signals can be picked up if you are trained to see them giving you the advantage of reading others body language. Awareness of body language can also help you control your own behaviours, ensuring you put out the correct message or stop you from giving away information that may put you at a disadvantage

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Understand the different terms

 

Emblems describe certain signals humans make consciously or subconsciously with parts of the body that have meaning without words.

Eye Accessing Cues are shown in the movements of the eyes in specific directions that suggest that an individual is thinking or accessing information from the mind.

Gestures are conscious or unconscious movements with our, hands, head, arms or legs which can have specific meanings to replace speech or to help emphasize it.

Illustrators are those gestures that we use to reinforce what we’re saying.

Leakage is a term given to signals which are given off one or more communication channels which may not be intended by the sender.

Manipulators are body language characterised by fidgety gestures, such as tapping feet, clicking pens, biting nails etc.

Micro expressions are facial expressions that occur within a fraction of a second. This involuntary emotional leakage exposes a person's true emotions.

Trait is as a distinct characteristic found in a person.

Voice is listening for the changes in pitch, volume and tone can tell us a lot about the emotional states of others.

Verbal style is the detail, structure, plausibility, contradictions and flow of the words we say [delivery]. 

Verbal content referring to the words we say or write.